It is the second week of new school! John make some progresses in school!
Highlights:
Highlights:
- 9月 13 週日 200917:28
Communication matter!
- 9月 05 週六 200922:05
more time to adapt new school
It is the 1st week of new school! John need more time to adapt new school.
Everyday when John come back from school, I will ask him 2 quesitons
1. Do you have fun today?
2. What's your favoriate course?
Everyday when John come back from school, I will ask him 2 quesitons
1. Do you have fun today?
2. What's your favoriate course?
- 11月 08 週六 200820:43
Policies of interacting with kids 2006-2015
1. Focus on big no-nos (事先約法三章，事後毫不妥協). Interact by consistency with love.
2. 懶人哲學: 跟在後面觀察，看到孩子熱情湧現，及時提供機會和幫助 instead of 站在前面指路
3. Show them direction. When kids make mistakes, help them cleaning up and tell them right way instead of asking for confession. Example, kids draw on the table or wall, help them cleaning up, and ask them to color on books and papers.
2. 懶人哲學: 跟在後面觀察，看到孩子熱情湧現，及時提供機會和幫助 instead of 站在前面指路
3. Show them direction. When kids make mistakes, help them cleaning up and tell them right way instead of asking for confession. Example, kids draw on the table or wall, help them cleaning up, and ask them to color on books and papers.
- 11月 08 週六 200820:31
Stop, think, go
Stop, think, go and make a good choice
John came home and gave me a sticker . There are some words and sign of traffic lights on it.
John came home and gave me a sticker . There are some words and sign of traffic lights on it.
- 10月 19 週日 200816:49
Give me rectangle
On Oct. 10, John need go to school, After school for a while.
John: I am hungry!
Dad: do you want to eat some snack?
It remind John that today is Bake sale. He can't buy any cake as we forget to give him money.
During the conversation, an idea come to my mind, it may be the time to give him allowance.
John: I am hungry!
Dad: do you want to eat some snack?
It remind John that today is Bake sale. He can't buy any cake as we forget to give him money.
During the conversation, an idea come to my mind, it may be the time to give him allowance.
- 10月 05 週日 200817:47
Call Daddy, please!
After this long summer, John memerizes Erica's mobile phone number. He would call Erica almost everyday by himself.
One day, Tim went out to Carrefour and left John at home with A-yi. Around 15 min after Tim went out, John called Erica. Erica knew Tim was going out so when she received a call from John, she thought John needed help and maybe urgent. When she picked up the phone and asked John what happened, John said 'mom, can you call daddy and ask daddy to call me? I want to tell him to come back earlier'... @#$%%^
... This happens quite often when your kid knows your phone number. They will call you everyday for nothing but fun!
One day, Tim went out to Carrefour and left John at home with A-yi. Around 15 min after Tim went out, John called Erica. Erica knew Tim was going out so when she received a call from John, she thought John needed help and maybe urgent. When she picked up the phone and asked John what happened, John said 'mom, can you call daddy and ask daddy to call me? I want to tell him to come back earlier'... @#$%%^
... This happens quite often when your kid knows your phone number. They will call you everyday for nothing but fun!
- 9月 12 週五 200821:26
Four Tasks of Mourning
The article comes from http://www.vitas.com/bereavement/providers1.asp
J. William Worden, Ph.D., a well known grief therapist, strongly believes that a person must mourn the death of someone who has been significant in his or her life. From interviews with the bereaved, Dr. Worden developed his Four Tasks of Mourning. He believes that if mourning is not complete, growth and development cannot take place and lifetime complications could develop. The following tasks take effort, “grief work,” on the part of the bereaved. The tasks do not necessarily occur in this exact order. Worden saw that the bereaved may go back and forth between two or three of the tasks while doing the grief work.
To Accept the Reality of the Loss
J. William Worden, Ph.D., a well known grief therapist, strongly believes that a person must mourn the death of someone who has been significant in his or her life. From interviews with the bereaved, Dr. Worden developed his Four Tasks of Mourning. He believes that if mourning is not complete, growth and development cannot take place and lifetime complications could develop. The following tasks take effort, “grief work,” on the part of the bereaved. The tasks do not necessarily occur in this exact order. Worden saw that the bereaved may go back and forth between two or three of the tasks while doing the grief work.
To Accept the Reality of the Loss
- 9月 12 週五 200821:21
面對死亡
Recently, John ask questions regarding to death from time to time. I recalled that last semester
son kids were dead when they played water motorcycles during outing. The concepts can be applied.
Step 1: 幫助孩子面對死亡
son kids were dead when they played water motorcycles during outing. The concepts can be applied.
Step 1: 幫助孩子面對死亡
- 9月 12 週五 200820:53
Death
During the dinner time, John suddenly asked me a question regarding death.
John: Dad, why Ben said if human become grand-grand fathers they will die.
I was surprised to hear this question.
Dad: It is similar to wearing clothes and playing toys. If you use them for a long time, it will become old.
I knew it might not be a good answer but that was the answer I had in my mind then.
After a few minutes, John came back to me and said
John: I don't want people to die. If you and mom die, will you still live with me? Can you still see me?
He started to cry after the question.
I hugged and comforted him for a while until he stopped crying.
Dad: You not yet become a father. It s still long way for me to become grandfather.
John: can you see me when you are die? Can you talk with me? .............
John still keep asking though I am not well prepared for answering. An idea come into my mind.
Dad: Do you remember " Lion King" movie you saw before. After Simba's dad die, his dad will watch him in the heaven. Simba can talk t0 his dad. ...........
It temporarily stopped John for further questions.
John: Dad, why Ben said if human become grand-grand fathers they will die.
I was surprised to hear this question.
Dad: It is similar to wearing clothes and playing toys. If you use them for a long time, it will become old.
I knew it might not be a good answer but that was the answer I had in my mind then.
After a few minutes, John came back to me and said
John: I don't want people to die. If you and mom die, will you still live with me? Can you still see me?
He started to cry after the question.
I hugged and comforted him for a while until he stopped crying.
Dad: You not yet become a father. It s still long way for me to become grandfather.
John: can you see me when you are die? Can you talk with me? .............
John still keep asking though I am not well prepared for answering. An idea come into my mind.
Dad: Do you remember " Lion King" movie you saw before. After Simba's dad die, his dad will watch him in the heaven. Simba can talk t0 his dad. ...........
It temporarily stopped John for further questions.
- 8月 14 週四 200821:43
Motocycle
This afternoon, I planned go to post office to mail out a birthday card. John saw me wearing a helmet and asked me if I am going out by motocycle. He wanted to go out with me if I am going to ride a motocyle. So, we went out...
When we pass through the entrance of a viaduct, he asked me if I could ride him to a "highway". I told him motocycle is not allowed to get on highway. He pointed the direction of that viaduct and said "but mom, there are motocycle in the highway, why they can go there?"
I realized he thought the vaiduct is highway. So, I clarified and told him that we could go there before we went home.
However, I forgot the promise after we came out from the building. He reminded me right after he got on the motocycle. I did not know why he wanted to go up to a vaiduct. What fun would it be?
When we pass through the entrance of a viaduct, he asked me if I could ride him to a "highway". I told him motocycle is not allowed to get on highway. He pointed the direction of that viaduct and said "but mom, there are motocycle in the highway, why they can go there?"
I realized he thought the vaiduct is highway. So, I clarified and told him that we could go there before we went home.
However, I forgot the promise after we came out from the building. He reminded me right after he got on the motocycle. I did not know why he wanted to go up to a vaiduct. What fun would it be?