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It is the 1st week of new school! John need more time to adapt new school.
 

After this long summer, John memerizes Erica's mobile phone number. He would call Erica almost everyday by himself.

One day, Tim went out to Carrefour and left John at home with A-yi. Around 15 min after Tim went out, John called Erica. Erica knew Tim was going out so when she received a call from John, she thought John needed help and maybe urgent. When she picked up the phone and asked John what happened, John said 'mom, can you call daddy and ask daddy to call me? I want to tell him to come back earlier'... @#$%%^

The article comes from http://www.vitas.com/bereavement/providers1.asp

J. William Worden, Ph.D., a well known grief therapist, strongly believes that a person must mourn the death of someone who has been significant in his or her life. From interviews with the bereaved, Dr. Worden developed his Four Tasks of Mourning. He believes that if mourning is not complete, growth and development cannot take place and lifetime complications could develop. The following tasks take effort, “grief work,” on the part of the bereaved. The tasks do not necessarily occur in this exact order. Worden saw that the bereaved may go back and forth between two or three of the tasks while doing the grief work.

Recently, John ask questions regarding to death from time to time. I recalled that last semester

This afternoon, I planned go to post office to mail out a birthday card. John saw me wearing a helmet and asked me if I am going out by motocycle. He wanted to go out with me if I am going to ride a motocyle. So, we went out...

When we pass through the entrance of a viaduct, he asked me if I could ride him to a "highway". I told him motocycle is not allowed to get on highway. He pointed the direction of that viaduct and said "but mom, there are motocycle in the highway, why they can go there?"

John know the age differences between he and mommy.  He also like to wash hairs at the same day with Erica.

One day, we went to cut hairs and thus didn't need to wash hairs at home again. 

This year, John started understanding "red envelop" was not just an envelop but can be used to pay for something he wanted. He counted how many he got and wanted to use it for some of good he wanted to buy. He does not have any idea about how much it is inside of the "red envelop". He just knows how many he has.

Because of this, we told him to make good use of his red envelop because he would not have received any red envelop until next new year. In the beginning, he did not know how to manage (because he thought "19" envelop was many and it would be take a long time to use it up) so he decided to use 7 of them when we were in Taipei. However, one day, he counted he had used 7 and there would be 12 left only...and he realized there was 12, no longer 19...

Summer is coming.    There are som mosquitos inside the house.  It is bothering erica from time to time.   After visiting one of John's friends, we decided to buy a mosquito tent.  During the precess of setting up mosquito tent, you can see john is jumping on the bed, slide down from mattress, help to move pillows, cover sheet etc.   You can feel he is very exciting and eager to stay inside the mosquitos tent.  

It recalled my memory when I was a kid.   I and my brothers always feel happy for jumping and playing aroung the bed.  

 John's summer vacation started on June 12.  It is a big challenge for me.  Summer camp will start only July 10.  Meanwhile,  I need to arrange the time between my working and John life.

John like to stay with me all the time if  he has no company.   I thus can't focus on my working.  Though I try to find some playmate sometime, most of his colleage will go back to US etc.   Some of his firend start in asis school. the school will be over at end of June. 

John likes to say some negative words recently.   He  like to say "chick" or "fatty" etc. 

He likes to say them and repeat more as he feel funny.   He also knows these words can attract more attenttion or response from others.

Sources: 寰宇家庭家長諮詢中心

當有年齡相近的手足，父母常不經意地將他們做比較，或是安排他們在同一個學習環境。但要注意的是，當兩人的能力有明顯的落差時，就容易出現「強者越強、弱者越弱」的現象，所以要建議爸爸媽媽應該讓他們分別學習，或是學習不同的內容，降低比較與競爭，也能增強孩子不同的能力與專長

Ages: 3 years + 4 months

陽陽在飯桌前面對自己的飯碗呆坐著! 過了一會兒,

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作者﹕家庭教育哲學博士/ 路易

早上起床後! 陽陽問今天要去哪裡! 我們沒有回答! 他就開始哭了.  因為他知道若我們沒告訴他去哪裡, 那就應該是要去學校!  但不同的是, 若是跟他玩一些他感興趣的遊戲 (如搔癢!). 他還是笑得很開心! 我想我們想得太簡單了!以為小孩適應學校後, 他就會停止哭泣! 我們忘了雖然他可能已經適應學校.  但從大哭特哭抵抗到底到完全不哭快樂上學的過程中, 還是要留一些時間給他小哭一下, 發洩一下.

第四週上學,  覺得陽陽應已經適應要上學的習慣了.  例如:

1.          早上雖小哭了一下說不要去學校.  但當我說那今天不要去上學好不好 ? 因為我想嘗試用相同的方法 (see ”小孩哭著不上學 怎麼辦? )與小孩溝通.  他竟然停止哭聲. 保持安靜, 但並不回答我